Chronic stress, significant hurt in your relationships, and persistent anxious thoughts can lead to depression.
You feel stressed, anxious and overwhelmed. You start to create these ideas that “it is never going to happen for me.” You just can’t keep up.
You can’t get it together, everyone expects too much from you. You feel helpless, hopeless and trapped. You don’t matter. You don’t deserve anything.
Your mood gets low and you believe you will never get out of the hole. You have no motivation to do anything, you totally check out, you can’t get out of bed, and you start to think why even go on.
You shut everyone out. It’s not getting better. And you feel empty and worthless. You have no strength to even ask for help. They just don’t get it.
Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions. While we don’t know exactly what causes depression, there are several things linked to its development such as long-term events like a job loss, break up or loss of a relationship, toxic relationships, stress at work, medical conditions, not having the ability to communicate and not being valued, not having a purpose, or other traumatic life events.
Emotional Symptoms of Depression
Physical Symptoms of Depression
Therapy can help you relate with your depression. Some people are open to therapy and for some, therapy can come across as scary. One of the ways I help my clients get through any fears is starting with a gentle approach to therapy using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Much of what happens when someone is depressed is really how they are thinking and feeling, and what beliefs are in their head.
Science-based approaches like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), is designed to empower a person by educating them to create new positive beliefs and to replace negative emotions through a systematic, goal-oriented approach.
CBT helps you with your thinking, by taking you through the process like the Cognitive Triangle. You become more aware of the how thoughts become feelings and feelings become behaviors.
CBT uses the cognitive triangle to represent how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interconnected–how each effects the others–and how we can use that information to develop healthier habits.
The idea is to be able to redirect or influence your thought patterns, but it starts with being aware of what those thoughts are and understand what distortions might be present in our thinking.