Elyce Gordon Counseling - The Feeling Expert (917
You’re stuck in a cycle of wake up > go to work > come home > attempt to sleep and can’t because your brain just won’t turn off > wake up even more exhausted than the day before… Repeat…Hello? Are you done with this sh-t yet?
Dana looked like she had it all together and on paper she looked like she was rocking it. But she was miserable and completly exhausted with absolutely NO energy.
The weekend is never long enough for Dana, and Sundays are ruined by the dread of the coming week. She started to give up any attempt to get good sleep Sunday night, because that’s when her brain kicks into overtime and she lays in bed feeling stupid, fake, unlovable, and unworthy.
She puts on a brave face for the world, and feels alone and terrified that one day, the façade will break. Then everyone in her life will have their eyes opened to all of her faults and see her for the worthless, stupid, unlovable women that she feels like.
Dana kept up the façade as long as she could, but eventually it started to break.
Mistakes at work, arguments with her spouse, eating anything and everything in sight, and binge watching Netflix like it was going out of style. Dana felt more alone and more ashamed than ever.
“How did I get here? What happened to that driven, passionate, bubbly, fun, excited woman that I use to be? Where did she go?”
Dana realized that she needed some help to break her out of her negativity shame spiral. That’s when I met Dana, as her therapist.
Together, Dana and I found the root that was fueling her Negative Nelly voice, because it was that voice that was keeping Dana stuck. Dan learned how to replace that negative voice with a positive, joyful, encouraging, and empowering voice. That new amazing voice helped Dana see how she could thrive in her life, instead of just survive it.
If you met Dana today, you would see a woman that is thriving in her life. She’s in control, and taking charge. Dana is excelling at work, closer to her spouse, enjoying time with her friends, sleeping like a champ, and able to easily make healthy decisions for herself and her life. She’s happy, and healthy, and feels amazing.
She not only recognizes her life, she loves her life. Dana went from being her own worst enemy to her own best friend.
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Sally realized that she needed some help to break her out of her negativity shame spiral. That’s when I met Sally, as her therapist.
Together, Sally and I found the source that was fueling her Negative Nancy voice, because it was that voice that was keeping Sally stuck. Sally learned how to replace that negative voice with a positive, joyful, encouraging, and empowering voice. That new amazing voice helped Sally she how she could thrive in her life, instead of just survive it.
Physically you are tired. Muscles are sore, stiff, and achy. You might get sick more often, have headaches, GI issues. And to top it all off, sleep is a nightmare. You either can’t fall asleep or you keep waking up in the middle of the night and can’t get back to sleep. Oh and don’t forget the never ending appetite. You’re never really hungry or full, but you can’t stop eating. Exercise? HA! Who has time for that?
Mentally you feel like your brain is in a fog. You have trouble concentrating, retaining new information, and you feel like your memory is shot. You may be more forgetful than normal. You start to see simple mistakes at work and at home.
Emotionally you are drained. You go between feeling nothing and feeling way too much. When you think about it, you can’t remember the last time you felt happy, rested, and passionate about life.
Every day you wake up and try to find the energy to put on the fake smile. You pretend all day long that everything is okay. Inside you are numb. You keep wishing for a magic wand to fix everything. Oh and you really want to take a nap.
Let me be blunt. This stress is killing you. This amount of stress is stealing your life from you. The once happy, outgoing, passionate, ambitions woman has vanished. She is still there, and I want to help you find her.
While I don’t have a magic wand, I do have the tools and resources to help you beat stress once and for all in your life. Find yourself again, and say buh-bye to being overwhelmed with stress.
In therapy you can:
· Identify your stress red flags and triggers.
· Learn how to help yourself heal and recover from too much stress.
· Find yourself and your voice again.
· Learn what is most important to you in your life, and how to adjust your priorities.
· Explore the magic of healthy boundaries. (I promise this stuff really is magic.)
· Stop the people pleasing. Say NO when you want to and not feel guilty about it.
· Discover what self-care means for you. AND, learn how to take care of you without feeling guilty about it.
You pretend like you have it all together, but inside you feel like you are totally losing your shit! You might not be comfortable, you might be fearful to take action but my process takes you each step of the way on a safe journey
It's all or nothing, good or bad, and nothing in between for you. Maybe you don't think you are important and it's more important to please others than to be comfortable.
You feel angry, frustrated, and alone because no one listens to you?
Do you feel like you are always calling everyone else and no one reaches out to see how you are doing? Do you abandon your own needs because you think others can't help themselves that are just as strong as us.
Maybe you feel the need to try and change your partner or friend in fear they may hurt themselves being who they are?
you feel like you can't think when your mind is not clear and you don't have the courage or confidence to push forward
science confirms that nature contributes to resilence and feelings of safety (Maas et al., 2009)
You’re exhausted, and the supports around you aren’t
cutting it anymore.
Old ways of coping aren’t working, and you’re not
The intensity is starting to affect your job, your
relationships, and your sleep.
You appreciate the advice from your friends, but you’re ready to talk with an unbiased professional.
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