The initial excitement wears off ... what happens when you aren't sure if you have anything in common any more?

Couples therapy: Taking the next step

Exploring the goal of saving your relationship or marriage is the first step. Couples therapy works best when both partners are making a genuine effort to participate shared goals.

As a Level II trained in The Gottman Method therapist, this is my primary technique that I use for couples who are struggling with their relationship or are feeling disconnected, unloved, and not supported by their partner.

The Gottman Method

John Gottman, and his wife Julie, developed the approach as a way for couples to increase friendship and closeness by managing conflict and enhancing communication. Not all conflicts have a solution, but you can learn to manage it and not allow it to destroy your relationship.

I provide couples with the tools and techniques to communicate more effectively, manage conflict, and create shared meaning through the use of The Gottman Method.

Couples therapy includes a thorough assessment of your relationship and integrates evidence-based interventions using the Sound Relationship House Theory to get you back to where you want to be.

relationships should not be taken lightly.

Even the best relationships have repeated disagreements, feelings of tension, and conflict. If you are like most couples, chances are you have had your ups and downs and you just don’t know where to start.

Being in a relationship is a commitment. Your relationship is worth considering saving. At least understand what happened. How did it fall apart? Being able to address things that may have caused the marriage or relationship to lose its luster, can be important in salvaging it and bringing back those feelings you first shared together.

It’s how you work though the conflict that makes the difference. Find a solution to the arguing and distance you feel.

Learn to reconnect and strengthen your relationship again, be friends, and decide whether to stay together or end the relationship. Couples therapy can make a difference.

Schedule a conversation with me at no cost to discuss what approach is best for you. This gives you an opportunity to address and questions you have about relation therapy or marriage counseling.

Which path is best for you?

Transform your relationship.

Do you feel like you lost your romantic connection? Is there something missing?

Do you long to feel seen, heard and valued by your spouse?

Do you feel you are disrespected? Or are they expecting too much?

Do you notice you continue to bicker over the same thing again and again?

How did we get here?

Many couples don’t even know how they got to this point. They know they love their partner or spouse, but have drifted away and lost the emotional and sexual connection. Maybe your partner doesn’t have your back. Or maybe you don’t feel important or have a voice. Maybe your relationship has resentments from past actions like infidelity or abuse, and it might feel really hard to move forward.

The Basics

With couples therapy, we can start with sitting together with you and your partner and discuss the best ways to communicate, relearn to have meaningful conversations that matter, and be friends again.

What to expect.

I teach you research-based strategies and tools to help you as a couple successfully manage the conflict and get through the tough times.

I will help to empower both of you to talk about about your whats blocking the communication and uncover what is creating the distance between you.

You will be able to process your emotions during those fights and learn techniques to deepen the intimacy and at any stage of your journey.

What clients are Saying.

My wife and I have worked with Elyce since February 2020. We really did go on a journey with her through the softening and improving of many healthy habits for our relationship together. We have recently reached a point where we have gained SO much from our time with Elyce, shifting from oft tension and slow repairs, to more frequent calmness and quick repairs when things get ugly. We would definitely recommend Elyce to any couple who feels they are struggling and need a helping guide to unravel, “get along”, and deepen your understanding and compassion for each other. Thank you Elyce.

"Elyce has helped us understand each others position and learn to have compassion for one another during difficult times. She has taught us how to have each others back."

Elyce Gordon continues to help me understand interactions with others from a perspective that was previously unknown to me. I have benefited tremendously from her counseling and highly recommend her therapeutic services.

I've had anxiety since my teens and have seen a handful of therapists throughout the years. Some I only saw for one session and some I stayed with for a few months before realizing they weren't helping me get to the root of my problems. I found Elyce on PsychologyToday and decided to give therapy another shot. Thankfully for me, Elyce was everything I had been searching for that was lacking in my previous therapists. I haven't had a bad bout of anxiety in about a year. I also haven't had a string of sleepless nights in about a year. I feel in control of my anxiety and stronger as a person all thanks to the work I've done with Elyce.